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With me resigning from the PD to focus on my schoolwork (would like to say it was my idea, but I was given a choice of which was more important to me–funny, as I go to the university I worked for), I have had something called “free time,” something I haven’t had in a long time.  But that is jumping ahead a bit…

So backing up a few months–I am divorced, and we are ok friends.  Things for me have changed, and changed quite drastically.  The “free time” I spoke of before has been quite a blessing, not only allowing for me to work on my internship (ironically at the PD I quit from) but also time for me to reflect on my life.  Signing up on eHarmony turned out to be the best decision I have made, matching me to a man I dearly love.  Yes, many have doubted that I can love so quickly and move too fast with someone I met on the internet.  Normally I would agree on that stance, but seeing as it has happened to me, I am quite a bit more open-minded on the topic.

Dan is amazing, and a perfect compliment to me.  I couldn’t have made a better choice.  My attitude has changed, and I am a much happier me.  His parents welcomed me with open arms (over the phone and on email, as they live in a different state), already considering me their daughter.  I introduced Dan to my parents, and they adore him, too–also telling both of us the amazing change in my attitude.  I moved in with him at the end of February, and my Grandpa went to a nursing home–he had another stroke and I couldn’t stay with him all the time or pick him up when he falls, which is quite often.  Shortly after, Dan gave me a beautiful promise ring, and this last Sunday had the talk with my dad.  My dad has been the biggest doubter of this entire relationship, the one that has been the loudest on us going too quickly.  So I was quite surprised when he said yes.  He is actually very happy and thrilled that I made a good decision–apparantly a lot of the “talk” was about all the terrible decisions that I have made throughout my life.  Makes me feel really good, but what can I do…those are his opinions, but I call those decisions “learning experiences”.  Anyway, not too long after I moved in, I waws backed into the corner at work to make the decision between work and school–work believed that they should be first in my life, and school being second.  At that point, I was only three months from graduation, so there was no way I was going to toss away $1800 just so I could keep a job that I was beginning to like less and less because they were changing my duties.  I am fortunate to be able to be at home and focus on my studies, and also begin thinking about what I want out of life. 

So back to the “free time” agian.  With this time, I have had two major…things…that I want to do.  First, I have eight patterns that are floating around in my head.  I am currently test knitting one of them, and I have one written out.  So hopefully I will be able to finish the test knit and write out the pattern–pretty basic, but it is coming out really cute.  🙂  During breaks and watching movies or TV,  I have been working on my patterns and test knits–Dan is going to build me a website soon, too, so I can put them on the web.  I am SO excited about this!  I have wanted to be able to write out patterns for quite some time, but have never had the chance–now I do, and I intend to take advantage of it!  And I can’t wait to share them with everyone!!

The second thing that I came up with just thinking about life is that I now know what I want to do as far as a career is concerned.  I thought for sure before I wanted to be in emergency management/police administration, but now that I have had time away and have been working on my internship project, I realized that the one thing I miss the most from working at the police department–doing the lectures in the freshman classes on safety and sexual assault on campus.  I was able to teach, warn and help students, and it was the most satisfying aspect of my job that I had.  After mulling it over, I realized I could still do that, but in a different capacity.  I know now that after I graduate, I am going to become an independent consultant.  I already have the ball rolling, as my internship project will definitely be a major portion of it.  I have tons more ideas of how to make it work and what I will do, and my future father in law and Dan both are behind me 100%, my FIL actually helping guide me in the right direction (he was an independent consultant at one time).  I can’t wait to get started on all of this!!  Things are really looking great. 🙂

Last, I wanted to say that I have started a new blog.  It is just basically somewhere I write about everyday stuff.  It would be great for everyone to check it out as well, and I do hope that it takes off.  🙂  This one I am going to go back to gearing it towards knitting, as I had originally intended.  Surprisingly, Dan has also picked up loom knitting, and we are both working on the charity project I had set at the beginning of the year–to make 100 baby hats–and we have decided to donate them to the children’s hospital in town.  A very close friend of mine works there as a nutritionist, and she has given me the contact there (and is also helping with my recent diagnosis of being diabetic–which she was shocked about since I am only 105lbs and 5’3, not exactly fitting the typical profile).  It is wonderful to have someone that is interested in doing the same things that you do, ya know?

Good night for now–going to get some rest for tomorrow!!

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Here it is, January 2010!!  I think I might have gotten an hour’s worth of sleep on New Year’s Eve…not because I was out partying with people, but because (1) poor Izzy couldn’t get comfortable with her foot injury, (2) my back injury and (3) my neighbors had a party from 5pm to 6am.  I know that they are older than me by some years, but even I can’t party for 12 hours straight, or even have company for that long!! 

The new year brings a lot for me.  It will be the year that I become single again.  The year that I graduate from college.  The year I become a certified sexual assault advocate.  There is a lot that I am expecting of this year, and I really hope that it does turn out great.  I am making an effort to be a lot more positive, and being a lot less of a procrastinator. 

I have made a lot of adjustments the past few weeks since leaving my ex.  Living in the new house has been pretty good, and my grandfather and I are getting along pretty well.  The pups are now comfortable with him, and I am so relieved by that!  Izzy is finally feeling better since she broke off her nail, and walking normal.  I have had two appointments with my massage therapist, and feeling a little better.  When Izzy injured herself, she didn’t like me trying to look at her foot, and then ended up hurting me.  My hips were hurt when she threw herself back, and ended up losing 30% of my rotation.  It’s going to be ok, just need to work on them.  The only other issue that I am having is the lack of space for me at the house.  I am doing what I can with the space allotted, but I am having to get seriously creative with storage.  I still have many boxes to go through, but no space to put things away.  I wish I did, but just not possible.  Will see what I can do…I am trying to figure a plan, but think I have one formualting…

My cousin, Hilary, got married to her boyfriend of 7 years on the 10th.  I wasn’t sure that I was going to have a good time, but I was surprised that I actually had a lot of fun.  🙂  She was absolutely stunning, glowing, happy…all the things that a bride should be.  There were things that went wrong, of course, but she took them all in stride and laughed at it.  It made things just that much better.  I managed to avoid the usual statement that I make when I see her…”I remember when I changed your diapers, you were so cute…”  But I did say it to my aunt.  HAD to get it out.  LOL!  Anyway, here are some pictures…

The day after the wedding, I woke to disaster.  I thought that I had had a good hold on my emotions, but I was proven wrong.  It started with the fact I only got an hour of sleep after returning from the wedding–I let my “date” (close friend of mine) have my bed and I slept on the couch.  G’pa was up by 6:30a, and I had just managed to fall asleep on the couch.  Since I was up and moving, I decided to go ahead and do a load of laundry.  Apparantly, that was the last straw for the sewer line–it collapsed, and flooded the driveway clean out and both of the bathrooms.  G’pa was very upset, and that was the straw that broke my emotional dam–I stepped outside, called my ex, and sobbed.  Got it under control, and then my parents showed up to try to fix it–and again, I broke down sobbing.  After taking some meds, I calmed down and slept for about an hour.  I was able to better deal with the situations.  They told us it would be fixed by Thursday (today), but now since it is raining it will not be fixed until Saturday or Monday.  I never realized just how much I rely on a sewer line until this happened and everything I need to do relies on it–showers, laundry, dishes, bathroom–it sucks.  And I have to stay there to make sure things are going ok, sign stuff, and answer questions.  Just glad that there are stores nearby and another set of grandparents that are only about 5 miles away.  *sigh*  It is a trial, but I can manage. 

Other than that, just been pouring through case files to try and show the need for a sexual assault advocacy program.  I have joined a SART in Williamson country, and will be doing the same in Hays.  I am very exicted about the program, and going to be working on computerizing my findings as I go.  I have been pretty much putting off all else around the house and in my life to do my research–still need to write out letters to friends about moving, make a few more presents thru knitting, and a few other things.  Like dating.  I am seriously considering it, and actually signed up for an online dating service.  Never done it before, and we will see how it goes. 🙂

Happy New Year to everyone!!!

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