Once again, I am going to go off of looming for a bit. My babies are home for 5 weeks, and I am SO happy, but not too happy with their regular home life. Just letting everyone know, they are my stepsons, although I treat as my own, and they have been through so much my heart aches for them.
I worry for my oldest son, since the divorce was so hard on him. Every hurtful comment from the mom’s boyfriend (of two years or so) really gets to him. Now he is scared that if he misbehaves I will leave him, since that was what he was told. I was LIVID. NO ONE speaks for me. Period. And I unleashed a torrent to her and to her sister about what the boyfriend had said. I wasn’t about to stand for anyone telling him I might leave, and I never will leave him, no matter what happens between my husband and I. So they have been warned–if I hear anything whatsoever that might even be a whisper of detrimental speaking on their behalf–talking about me, my husband, or them–I will be all over them like white on rice. The problem was fixed, he is reassured, and I have two happy little boys right now. I think that the boyfriend get frustrated because my oldest has a mild form of tourrets syndrome, and so handling him is a bit different than you would a normal child. Structure is important, and so is counseling. Since it is mild, we don’t need drugs, at least yet, for what he has. It is fine as long as no one says anything hurtful for the most part or triggers anxiety or nervousness. But if it gets to be any worse at that house, I am not going to stand by.
I know I sound like one of those women who hates the ex and anything that has to do with her. That’s not true. We actually do get along to a degree, and I am pretty close with her family (as in I stay at their house, talk on the phone, email, hang out, etc). I consider them family, they consider me family, and most of the time the conversations end with a “love you.” We pretty much see eye to eye on how much we dislike the boyfriend, too, so it’s nice to have that support as well.
Ok, on to the good stuff. We have had a blast so far…been able to go to the pool, hang out and watch movies, play some video and card games. It’s been really nice having them here, although hectic at times. And in the spare time, I have been able to get some knitting done. I am ALMOST finished with the hooded scarf that I am knitting for my mom’s birthday. I want to get started on several other projects I have running around in my head. I want to make another hooded scarf, inspired to make some socks, and make a few more brimless hats for my mom. I want to try to make the pinwheel blanket that I have been itching to make for a few years, especially for the baby my friend just had. Just seems perfect. However I can’t figure out the cast on and how to start it…
Anyway, the boys should be home in a minute from the latest swimming expedition. I need to start getting dinner ready, and maybe get my scarf finished. Lots to think about, lots to do!!! Happy daze everyone!!
